thoughts and expressions

The impermanence of the world exists in people too. This is succinctly put together in the fourth essay: How the People We Once Loved become Strangers Again

Not just with death but the weakening or breaking of friendship to the point of strangers. The ones we have loved become strangers again. It’s an unfortunate fact of life. It may not happen to all connections over the years but it’s a shared experience for everyone.

I want to believe that you either love someone, in some way, forever, or you never really loved them at all.

We are only but a human-shaped collage. The ones we come across become an integral part of our lives and leave a similar sized hole within us when they leave. The funny thing is that just because they’re no longer part of our lives, it doesn’t mean that they’re forever gone.

There are always those bits that linger. The memories that are impressed on the places you went and the things you said and the songs you listened to remain.

People come and go. Memories do not. Memories are an integral part of us and stick with us for a lifetime. Since those memories were not independently created, people don’t just become transitory beings passing through our lives, a part of them stay with us forever.

The need to reconnect remains strong. It’s only natural to want to reach out and rekindle the relationship; however, it’s just as important to note that “the wounds we leave in people are sometimes too raw to risk falling back into them”. When a relationship starts crumbling, both sides feel some wounds in any form. When one side feels healed and has the temptation to rekindle their relationship, they should take a step back and realize and understand that some wounds also exist in the other person.

“Find the person with the same mental disease” a dear friend says. We’re all craving a similar person. Someone who matches our wavelengths and frequencies; however, also expecting a sort of adventure – a change in our daily lives. It’s a beautiful thing. Friendship. Companionship. The issue is that we don’t choose who becomes our friend, stays our friend, or becomes a stranger. It is ultimately not up to us. Life flows. Times change. People have their own responsibilities as well.

We live and let live.